Tis the season to be jolly—and merry, happy, joyful and festive, not to mention thankful.

Which is enough to make a person feel really pissed off.

Except wives, moms, daughters and girlfriends, women are not allowed to be pissed off during the holidays, even if they’re the ones who have the most right to be.

And no matter how thoroughly you’ve let go of your own illusions that this season is one big laughfest, you’ve got all those other people depending on you to make their holiday dreams come true.

Is it really possible to make everyone in your life happy at this time of year? It is possible to try (and maybe even make yourself happy in the process), though what does the trick may be a surprise…

Holiday Lover Vs. Holiday Hater: which are you?

You’d think it would be easy to tell whether you’re a holiday lover or hater, but often these things are not so clear cut. Maybe you love buying presents, but hate your tendency to overspend. Or you love holiday parties, but loathe the music.

 The question remains: In the final analysis, are you a holiday lover or hater? Our simple quiz can help you figure it out.

1. If you hear “I Saw Mommy Kissing Santa Claus” one more time, you are going to have to:

a. start wearing earplugs 24/7.

b. personally see that every recording ever made of that song is destroyed for all eternity.

c. jump up and shake your groove thang!

2. No one has ever actually given you a fruitcake, but if they did, you would:

a. thank them and save it under the Christmas tree as an emergency regift.

b. use it as a weapon to batter them to the ground.

c. be so excited to finally taste your first fruitcake!

3. Secret Santa time, and you draw the name of your office enemy.  Your gift choice:

a. the fruitcake!

b. a prettily wrapped box you “accidentally” leave empty. Oh well. Santa knows when you’ve been naughty.

c. in the true spirit of the season, something even nicer than you’d buy for your office crush.

4. The holiday cards are coming in, except you haven’t made any progress on sending yours out. You:

a. head to an online greeting card company, patch together something generic, and send it to your entire contact list at once.

b. write a mass e-mail about what your family was really up to this year, from Grandpa’s dementia to Alex’s pot arrest. That’ll show ‘em.

c. geez, you made everybody wait so long you can’t send an ordinary little card, so you produce and distribute a family video.

5. When the holidays are over and it’s time to get back to real life, you:

a. start making plans for summer vacation.

b. relish every day before the horrors of summer vacation.

c. cry.

If you answered mostly A’s, we’re going to call you a holiday agnostic. While you don’t exactly hate the period from Thanksgiving through New Year’s, you’d prefer a low-key, one-evening Festivus celebration.

If you answered mostly B’s, you’re a hater, and what’s more, you love to be a hater. In fact, you love it so much, you’ve almost come all the way around the horn to become a lover.

If you answered mostly C’s, you’re crazy. We hope we don’t know you.